Mom, What Do YOU Want for Summer?

When my kids were at home, I never asked myself this. I was too busy planning and scheduling the perfect summer full of pool time, camps, and Vacation Bible School. It looked great in theory, but summer came, and I found myself counting down to the beginning of a new school year.

Summers were messy, and the lack of schedule made me feel disorganized. Messy house. Kids that always wanted to do something. Don’t get me wrong; I love my boys. They know I would tackle a bear to save them from harm. But summer with my precious baby angels was stress filled. Why? Because I was a perfectionist. I had no boundaries.

How can you bring yourself a little more peace for this summer?

Set your boundaries

How much am I willing to be in the car this summer driving my people around? What do I need bedtimes to look like (not for them but for myself)? How am I going to spend quality time with my significant other?

Ask for help.

Schedule playdates with neighbors and friends. Carpool. Send them to see aunts or grandparents if they will take them. Giving your kids time away from you will make you appreciate yourself more. I know it’s hard to let go of control.

Let go of perfection.

Let go of comparison. Compare yourself to no one. Not to your mom, not to that neighbor who never seems to yell at her kids or has all the perfect snacks. Comparison is the death of joy. Let it go.

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Keep your schedule.

The workout routine that has worked well, the Bible study you have found, your eating plan. Try to stay with those things that bring you joy. Keep yourself grounded. When you feel grounded you are less likely to blow up at your kids or spouse or notice the messiness of your house.

Don’t try to reason with your kids.

Your child’s prefrontal cortex – the part that controls impulse control, reasoning and comprehension – does not fully develop until their 20s. You have to be the voice of reason. That’s why knowing your boundaries is so important.

Give yourself grace.

Lots of it. You are not superwoman. You don’t have to do it all. You are in charge of your schedule. If you keep hearing yourself say how busy or stressed you are, take a step back. Evaluate. You are the only one that controls your schedule.

Sounds easy right? Just follow the steps and you are on your way to perfect Motherhood. Well, it isn’t. You will doubt yourself and feel like you’re failing. You are not. You are doing the best you can with the knowledge you have. That’s it. Your kids love you. They may not always show it, but they are depending on you to be their rock. Motherhood is NOT a sprint. It is a marathon.

These summer days are precious, it’s up to you to change the way you look at them and find your joy.

Take a deep breath in, relax your jaw and know that you got this.

Valerie Thompson
Author: Valerie Thompson

Valerie Thompson is a health coach, yoga instructor, meditator, breath instructor, and mom of two grown boys. She helps women explore how to take care of themselves by balancing hormones, while juggling their career and family.

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Mom, What Do YOU Want for Summer?

by Valerie Thompson time to read: 3 min