A Mom’s Mental Health Matters Too
As a preschool owner, I’m constantly reflecting on our programs and what we can do to make the next school year better. One of the most important lessons we learned this past year is embracing a constant state of change.
I believe now more than ever it is absolutely imperative that we prioritize adult mental health and wellbeing so we can do the same for our kids.
This pandemic has been hard and stressful for everyone, and sometimes when we’re in an uncomfortable spot, we can’t see the suffering of those around us – particularly our kids. They don’t always have the vocabulary or emotional intelligence to say “I’m hurting” or “I don’t understand,” so it manifests as outlandish behavior, or maybe you think they’re just getting on your nerves.
As women sometimes there’s a certain amount of pressure, whether self-imposed or not, to have it together or look like we have it together, and that’s just not always the case.
In some communities, seeking professional counseling is frowned upon or even thought of as not having faith in God, but we are living in such unprecedented times and for some, the pandemic triggered unresolved trauma. Venting to friends may not always be the best solution to get to the root cause and successfully resolve lingering issues.
But here’s the thing – our children are fighting their own battles that may or may not be evident on the surface.
They face so many battles that we minimize as a rite of passage as it relates to issues like bullying, racism and even establishing their own identity. The internet gives our children much more exposure to these things on a larger scale than we experienced in our generation.
Before kids get into stressful situations, we can begin instilling the skills and knowledge they need to succeed, but if we haven’t dealt with our own trauma and issues, we can’t help them successfully navigate life successfully.