Can You Replace Resolutions with Curiosity?

With the beginning of a new year, some of us turn our attention to resolutions for the future. Or maybe you’re thinking, “Forget that! The last two years have been really hard, and I’m not gonna expect anything from 2022.”

Whichever side of the spectrum you fall, can you be curious? Curiosity eliminates judgment.

What is it about a goal or resolution that appeals to you? What is it that doesn’t appeal to you? When have you felt like this before?

Curiosity is a state of active interest or genuinely wanting to know more about something. When we are interested in something, we are more motivated and likely to explore it. When we explore, we gain knowledge. This makes us feel more competent and boosts our mood and self-esteem, which leads us to explore and learn more. This is a reinforcing cycle, or positive feedback loop, in which curiosity fuels curiosity.

The opposite of curiosity? Judgment: the ability to make sensible guesses about a situation or sensible decisions about what to do, usually based on past circumstances. It can be useful except when it interferes in our growth.

Think of judging as a little suit of armor we wear to protect ourselves. The older we get and the more experiences we have, the heavier and clunkier that armor becomes, keeping us from moving, learning, or experiencing new activities. Our brains need new activities to stay young!

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Like you, I’ve seen and done a few things. Some experiences have locked me in a place of judgment, assuming I know what’s coming next based on the past. It can keep us stuck, set in our ways, and unable to even entertain the thought of curiosity.

Continually looking at the things we think to be certain keeps us growing, adventurous. How can you stay in a state of curiosity this year?

-Speak less, listen more.

-Get comfortable with your uncertainty.

-What information gaps do you have? Fill them up. Read about them, explore all angles.

-Slow down. Schedule time to disconnect from the world. Journal your questions. Focus on your breathing. Restoring your mental energy is vital for curiosity.

-Try new things. When was the last time you tried something new just for yourself? Not kid interests, or for the family. What interests you?

-Figure out how you got to where you are today. Question it. Embrace it.

-Ask ‘WHY?’ and other good questions. Where did this thought come from? What logic did I use to get to this answer? What kind of feeling is attached to this thought? What if you learned to be curious instead of assuming you know other people’s intentions or thinking that they should be acting differently?

Coming from that place of curiosity makes hitting our goals easier. It gives us the ability to be flexible in goal-setting exercises.

Old and boring is not for us! We want to stay curious and keep our zeal for life. Staying in that place of curiosity and wonder, while letting go of judgment, is one of the biggest steps to great health.

Valerie Thompson
Author: Valerie Thompson

Valerie Thompson is a health coach, yoga instructor, meditator, breath instructor, and mom of two grown boys. She helps women explore how to take care of themselves by balancing hormones, while juggling their career and family.

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Resolutions vs Curiosity

by Valerie Thompson time to read: 3 min